Sexpectations

'Have you ever been concentrated more on the music in background than on what was really happening during sex?'
The only question of yesterdays night. And the answer was 'many times'
Saying 'oh God, I am really into this.... music' is not a sin right? However, what do we all expect from sex?

1)It must be spontaneous, or at least it must seem that it started coincidentally.

2)Nothing wrong must be said.
Unfortunetaly there are plenty of words or phrases that stop everything and only a few which really turn you on. On the other hand, you get nothing without risking. Play it for your advantage - everything might be taken with humor or even with humor with an sexual allusion. Also confident gestures help.

3)Right time, right place, right dress.
You women will know what I mean with the right dress. And there is only one solution. If you want your sexual life to be spontaneous, you must be prepared anytime then. Wear only the kind of dress and underwear in which you feel sexy and confident. Of course, you must feel comfortable as well.

The problem with the place - it is not only your messy room or plenty of stuff laying everywhere, but also music in the background is very often required by at least one person. Sometimes, replacing this music with your own 'voices or noices' is better, nice change. Enjoy listening to each other, to your bodies.
An as to the messy room - definitely don't start to freak out when you realize that you haven't tidied up for ages and definitly do NOT start tidying in front of your crush. (There are some exceptions, but I hope that nobody takes anybody in their place when it is more like a house for pigs than for two people. Keep your place clean. If you want your sex to be about purity and cleanliness, than you should also keep your apartment clean)

 The rest is up to what it is going to happen. Let it go fluently and do not think. There is never good sex if your brain is on. It is definitely you who must be on.